I became a Christian when I was 18. Yes, just as the delights of Sex, Drugs and Rock 'n Roll were imminent , God rocks up and turns my life upside down. Four years on, I present to you a collection of thoughts from a Christian now struggling with her first year at Uni. Some may find it insightful, others just amusing! Laugh on my friends.
May 1, 2008, 11:11 pm
Filed under: SEX | Tags: Blogging, SEX
One of the joys of WordPress is that it allows you to see how many people have viewed each post you’ve written and how they’ve come across it. Until today only a handful of faithful readers have been viewing my work, but since posting my last two articles both tagged; SEX!, no less than 81 people have stumbled across them in the first few hours.
Humans are always searching for something to fill their lives. Ironically this time they were searching for sex but found Christianity instead.
I suffer a constant barrage of slagging about my sex life (or lack of). Though its all generally just playful classroom banter, I often wonder how much my friends really understand about my choice to remain celibate until marriage. My decision to live the Christian life at the exciting age of 18 is often met with confusion, “why didn’t you wait until after uni?”, “don’t you wish you’d messed around a bit more first?”. In reality, though deciding to stay celibate for the rest of my unmarried life seems like a difficult decision, it really wasn’t. When I weigh up the benefits against the sacrifice I’m definitely on to a winner.
Let me first explain that God does NOT think sex is wrong. God created sex and he created it to be enjoyed, but as with every good thing he has given us, if it is abused or taken for granted we end up hurt. When I became a Christian I came to realise that sex is more than a quick drunken fumble, more than an experience shared between to lovers and even more than a deep intimate commitment to another person. Though it can of course be all of these things, he intended for it to mean so much more. The bible tells us in 1 Corinthians 6:12-20 that when two people have sex their bodies become one, not only physically but spiritually. In marriage this is a beautiful bond where the two of you are united in everything you do for the rest of your life, the downside is of course if you do not intend on spending the rest of your life with that person, though you will no longer be physically joined, part of your soul is still united with them.
Ok, I know this all sounds a bit deep for someone barely in their twenties but on perhaps a more relative note, when I finally do meet the man of my dreams I would love to be able to give the whole of myself to him on my wedding night without having already shared that part of me with anyone else. It is one of my biggest regrets that I will never be able to do that. As I only really became a Christian when I was 18 I hadn’t always thought of things in this light, however I know that God does not love me any less for my mistakes, and now I choose to honour him with my body.
Still wondering what on earth I’m on about? Here’s a little recommended reading for you…
This book Gift Wrapped by God explains far more articulately than I could, about singleness, sexual purity and forgiveness. Essential reading for every girl I only wish I’d had it as a teenager.
This one is for the guys, though I’ve never read it but I hear its a keeper (if a little Americanised for us Brits).
